Making time for yourself without the guilt
A bit of time for you is not selfish — it is what keeps you going.
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When you're responsible for a small human, your own needs slide to the bottom of the list. But a knackered, depleted dad helps no one. Half an hour for exercise, a hobby, or just quiet is maintenance, not indulgence.
Swap time with your partner so you each get a break, and try not to feel guilty about it. Looking after yourself is part of looking after your family.
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