Signs it might be more than a rough patch
Telling the difference between a hard few weeks and something worth getting help for.
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- EmergencyCall 999
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- SamaritansCall 116 123
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- CALMCall 0800 58 58 58
Campaign Against Living Miserably — for men. 5pm–midnight daily.
- ShoutText SHOUT to 85258
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- NHS 111Call 111
Urgent (non-emergency) mental health help — call and select the mental health option.
Everyone has rough patches. The things worth noticing are when they don't lift: losing interest in things you used to enjoy, trouble sleeping even when the baby sleeps, snapping at people you love, or feeling like you're just going through the motions.
None of this means anything is wrong with you as a dad — it means you're carrying a lot. Reaching out early makes it easier to turn around. Your GP can talk options through with you, and the free lines on this page are there 24/7 if you need someone now.
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