Co-parenting when you are not together
Keeping things steady for your kids when you and their other parent are apart.
Tadpole Wellbeing TeamVerified expert
general information, not medical advice. if something's worrying you, speak to your GP or a qualified professional.
Co-parenting after a split is hard, and it rarely looks like the tidy version online. What helps most is consistency for the kids: predictable handovers, not putting them in the middle, and keeping adult disagreements away from them.
Be kind to yourself — this is a genuine loss as well as a logistical puzzle. Leaning on mates, and on the support lines on this page if it gets heavy, is a strength, not a failing.
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