Co-parenting when you are not together
Keeping things steady for your kids when you and their other parent are apart.
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Co-parenting after a split is hard, and it rarely looks like the tidy version online. What helps most is consistency for the kids: predictable handovers, not putting them in the middle, and keeping adult disagreements away from them.
Be kind to yourself — this is a genuine loss as well as a logistical puzzle. Leaning on mates, and on the support lines on this page if it gets heavy, is a strength, not a failing.
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