Surviving the sleep-deprived months
General, been-there tips for getting through the worst of the broken nights.
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Sleep deprivation makes everything harder — patience, mood, even driving. Where you can, tag-team the nights so each of you gets one longer stretch, nap when the baby naps instead of doing jobs, and lower the bar on everything non-essential for a while.
It does pass. If exhaustion ever tips into feeling unsafe — like nodding off at the wheel — treat that as a reason to ask for help, not to push through.
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